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  • in reply to: Hey! How about another challenge! #6672
    TKiley
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    Well, I haven’t kept up to the challenge well, (and it was my challenge in the first place!)  So for this acknowledgement, I would like to acknowledge all of you for being involved with grateful acknowledgement.  Let me explain.

    Yesterday I attended a seminar on developing emotional intelligence.  I haven’t had much exposure to this, so it made sense to attend.  The seminar, for a one day event, was very good.  The facilitator did a great job explaining the pieces of the puzzle; self-awareness, self-control, attitude, motivation and all the social competencies needed for successful communication with team members.  But when it was just about over, I realized there was something missing; acknowledgement.  We didn’t get into the concept of acknowledging other team member’s performance, attitude, etc.  At the beginning when they ask the typical question of what you would like to get out of the class, I mentioned the desire to improve my communication skills, including acknowledgement.  He said we would hit on that, but it never really happened.  It wasn’t even mentioned in the training handouts.  After class, I realized how important my new understanding of grateful acknowledgement really is, and how it ties all of the emotional intelligence information I received together, and truly completes the concept.

    That said, I would like to acknowledge everyone here for your efforts to recognize the importance of acknowledgement.  In fact if it wasn’t for finding this topic through the IPM Day last year, and getting involved here with you all, I would still be oblivious to the benefits of grateful acknowledgement.

    So I thank you all for sharing with me!

    in reply to: Live Q & A session September 20 #6662
    TKiley
    Participant

    I’m sorry I had to leave the Q&A today.  Will the recorded version be available any time?

     

    in reply to: irritated instead of encourged #6655
    TKiley
    Participant

    Judy asked me to read and maybe comment on this today.  And I am glad she did.

    I also agree with Michelle (Micmadsen), that sometimes people are so accustomed to the negative, they don’t even recognize a positive comment when given.  It was very courageous of Kathy to give the acknowledgement in this situation, with the possibility (and as it turned out – reality) that it may be taken the wrong way at first.  But as Roxi suggested, it’s possible that a true heartfelt acknowledgement may take some time to sink in past that gruff outer shell.

    I’ve only been here for a short while, but I do have a similar  experience.  Another supervisor was always coming up with ideas to improve the equipment at our plant.  Many of my peers told me when I first arrived that he is a bit eccentric and don’t pay much attention to his ideas.  Well that didn’t sit well with me.  When he came to give me his ideas, I listened, offered suggestions and employed some of his ideas.  After I’ve been there a couple of years, he decided to move on to a new job cross country.  I went to say goodbye and he spent an hour thanking me for listening to him, and just talking to him.  He felt he was a pariah at the plant, and hated the constant brushing off of his ideas and anything he did.  He told me I was the only one in the 20 years he worked there who would even entertain his ideas, let alone use them.  I said I was sorry for all of that but he said no, I was the one who gave him confidence and the courage to look for a new job, to get away from the negative.  I wasn’t sure what to say.  Thank you didn’t seem appropriate at the time.

    in reply to: Live Q & A session September 20 #6650
    TKiley
    Participant

    Thank you for the invitation, and I am planning to attend.

    The only question I have is simply  whether my challenge is one that the members would be interested in responding to.

    And for your question on what would have me come back every day?  The answer is what already has me coming here every day!  Input!  I’m like Johnny Five!  I need input!  There is so much I have learned through my career from other’s experiences.   I log in first thing (almost first anyway!) to see what others may have shared.  In fact this is the reason for my challenge.

    • This reply was modified 5 years, 2 months ago by TKiley.
    in reply to: Hey! How about another challenge! #6644
    TKiley
    Participant

    So, to start this off, I will commence my commitment.  (This time I was the recipient of the acknowledgement)

    Before she started her rigorous new career as a kindergarten student, we had our granddaughter for 2 weeks.  She got to play with the horses, the dogs, color, do all the things a 5 year old girl does at her ‘grandparents ranch’.  When it was time to go home, we were wondering if she would be upset about leaving.  Instead, she gave both ‘Gram’ and ‘Coco’ big hugs, and told us how happy she was that she came, and thanked us for all the things we did with her.  She finished by telling us that we taught her a lot too, about letters, and numbers, and thanked us for helping her learn so much. We were a big help!

    I tell you, my heart about burst with joy for that little girl!  And it made me feel so blessed to hear her give such praise to us.  It’s amazing how mature 5 year old kids can be, if you listen to them as I now do.

    in reply to: Grateful Leadership Crossword Puzzle! #6639
    TKiley
    Participant

    Darn.  I finally got around to call up the puzzle for lunchtime entertainment, but my company website has the location blocked; probably due to the nature of the site (puzzles!)

    in reply to: Grateful Leadership in Media #6624
    TKiley
    Participant

    I thought about any movies that might show leaders being grateful.  And being an old Navy submariner, I thought of one good sub movie; “Down Periscope” with Kelsey Grammer.  It’s a goofie comedy of a rag-tag crew of misfits on a very old submarine, with a fun outcome.  But the end has a really good scene of acknowledgement.  The Admiral congratulates ‘Captain Dodge’ for his successful exercise and informs Dodge that he will be given command of a brand new Seawolf Class submarine with a crew fit for success.  With his present sub crew in formation behind him, Dodge tells the Admiral he could not take the new submarine unless his crew comes with him.  He says that his success would not be possible without his crew.  Then the camera pans across the faces of the crew who are now beaming with pride.

    Yes, this is a Hollywood movie, but it’s still a great example of a leader acknowledging the efforts of his team, no matter what anyone else thinks of them.

    And yeah, it’s a funny movie too!

    in reply to: CGL Member Challenge! #6612
    TKiley
    Participant

    This afternoon, I had the opportunity to acknowledge one of the contractors who we use for various projects.   Their estimator was here for another job, so I took the chance to tell him how much I appreciated their workers’ attitude and work ethic they displayed while converting an obsolete pit into an outdoor secondary containment for a future acid storage system.  While we walked around the plant, I told him how much I appreciated the effort they all gave.  And, I followed the verbal message with this message in an email;  “I appreciate the work they did very much.  They spent a number of days here working on the pit, then building the containment.  The quality of work is excellent, but I need to say a bit more.  Their attitude was impressive.  They were all positive, hard working and focused on the job at hand.  I noticed that Oak (the supervisor’s real name!) spent little time here supervising the work.  Yes, he was here at the critical times, but he did not need to spend any more time than necessary with his workers.  That tells me there is a tremendous amount of trust between your work force and the supervision.  I respect that very much and appreciate that amount of ownership the whole team displayed.  I’d appreciate it if you could share this with them.”

    The response was very thankful, and they said they will share this at their next safety meeting.

    • This reply was modified 5 years, 3 months ago by TKiley.
    in reply to: Introduce Yourself! #6605
    TKiley
    Participant

    Embarrassed, no.  Appreciative, YES!

    Thank you!

    in reply to: Introduce Yourself! #6603
    TKiley
    Participant

    Hello.  My name is Tom Kiley.  I was introduced to this concept at the IPM day last November.  And submitted an entry to Judy’s question about holding from showing vulnerability which was chosen as the winner!  From that I had a very nice one on one hour with Judy.  One of the things that had held me back was from my military service on submarines, where outstanding performance is the expectation, and my technical rating as  Missile Technician historically was used to little acknowledgement.  So I inadvertently brought that into civilian life.  I also finished the course from IIL and have been working on my acknowledgement skills.  Happy to say I was able to use them today.  I had a contractor crew installing a concrete containment outside our facility.  It was cool this week, only high 80’s to mid 90’s F instead of the 100F it has been.  These guys were here in the heat and working hard to get the containment done on time, which they did.  I stopped in regularly to ask how they were, and check up on their well being, and when they finished I made it a point to shake each one’s hand, look them in the eye and thank them.  Each one busted into a big smile.  That felt really good!

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